Toxic Relationships
What is a toxic relationship?
A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. A relationship is toxic when your well-being is threatened in some way—emotionally, psychologically, and even physically
In a healthy relationship, everything just kind of works. Sure, you might disagree from time to time or come upon other bumps in the road, but you generally make decisions together, openly discuss any problems that arise, and genuinely enjoy
signs of a toxic relationship?
You might notice some of these signs in yourself, your partner, or the relationship itself.
1. Lack of support
Healthy relationships are based on a mutual desire to see the other succeed in all areas of life – you may feel they only care about what they want.
2. Toxic communication
Instead of kindness and mutual respect, most of your conversations are filled with sarcasm or criticism and fueled by contempt
3. Envy or jealousy
While it’s perfectly fine to experience a little envy from time to time, if it’s a constant it can quickly begin to erode your relationship.
4. Controlling behaviors
Controlling how you act, who you see, what you spend and even how you look. This can also suggest abuse.
5. Resentment
Holding on to grudges and letting them fester chips away at intimacy. If you can’t trust your partner to listen to your concerns, your relationship could be toxic.
6. Dishonesty
This could be to to protect yourself and to avoid conflict or you may know you are being lied to.
7. Patterns of disrespect
Respect is the foundation of all relationships. Both partners needs to feel respected in a relationship for it to flourish.
8. Negative financial behaviors
Sharing finances with a partner involves a level of agreement about how you’ll spend or save your money but spending all the money needlessly or taking money off someone and controlling what you spend is toxic
9. Constant stress
Ongoing stress can take a toll on physical and mental health, and you might frequently feel miserable, mentally and physically exhausted, or generally unwell.
10. Ignoring your needs
Going along with whatever your partner wants, even when it goes against your wishes or comfort level, is a sign of toxicity,
11. Lost relationships
You’ve stopped spending time with friends and family, either to avoid conflict with your partner or to get around having to explain what’s happening in your relationship.
12. Lack of self-care
You might withdraw from hobbies you once loved, neglect your health, and sacrifice your free time. This might happen because you don’t have the energy for these activities or because your partner disapproves when you do your own thing.
13. Hoping for change
You might stay in the relationship because you remember how much fun you had in the beginning. Maybe you think that if you just change yourself and your actions, they’ll change as well.
14. Walking on eggshells
You worry that by bringing up problems, you’ll provoke extreme tension, so you become conflict avoidant and keep any issues to yourself.
If you find any of these feel familiar to you and you want help to get to the root of how these problems start. I can help you understand how your past has led to this point in your life. You may notice that you keep repeating these relationships but you dont understand how these relationships keep repeating themselves.
