On Letting Go
10 Tips for letting go
One thing that connects us as human beings is our ability to feel pain. Whether that pain is physical or emotional, we all have experiences of being hurt. What separates us though, is how we deal with that pain.
1. Create a positive mantra to counter the painful thoughts
How you talk to yourself can either move you forward or keep you stuck. Often, having a mantra that you tell yourself in times of emotional pain can help you reframe your thoughts. I can recommend saying ‘I am enough’ ‘I matter’. ‘I love myself’.
2. Do your own work
Focusing on yourself is important. You have to make the choice to address the hurt that you're feeling. When you think about the pain, bring yourself back to the present. Then focus on something that makes you feel happier.
3. Practice mindfulness
When we start practicing being present, our hurts have less control over us, and we have more freedom to choose how we want to respond to our lives,”
4. Be gentle with yourself
If your first response to not being able to let go of a painful situation is to criticize yourself, it’s time to show yourself some kindness and compassion.
Treating yourself like you would treat a friend, offering ourselves self-compassion, and avoiding comparisons between our journey and those of others.
5. Allow the negative emotions to flow
If you’re fear of feeling negative emotions is causing you to avoid them, don’t worry, you’re not alone. many times, people are afraid of feelings such as grief, anger, disappointment, or sadness.
Shutting them out can disrupt the process of letting go. Let the feelings flow out of you… It may require mental health intervention, but fighting them can leave you stuck.
6. Engage in self-care
When we are hurting, it often feels like there is nothing but hurt. But still do the things that bring you some joy or comfort, and listening to your own needs first.
7. Surround yourself with people who fill you up
We can’t expect ourselves to get through our hurts alone. Allowing ourselves to lean on loved ones and their support is such a wonderful way of not feeling isolation but also reminds us of the good in our lives.
8. Give yourself permission to talk about it
sometimes people can’t let go because they feel they aren’t allowed to talk about it. This may be because the people around them no longer want to hear about it or there are feelings of embarrassment or shame.
Talking it out is important. I recommends finding a friend or therapist who is patient and accepting as well as willing to listen.
9. Give yourself permission to Let Go.
Let go of anger, guilt, shame, sadness, or any other feeling you may be experiencing to enable move on and most importantly forgive yourself.
10. Seek professional help
Sometimes it’s difficult to implement these tips on your own, and you need an experienced professional to help guide you through the process.
Unfortunately hurt is inevitable, however, we can choose to treat ourselves kindly and lovingly and allow ourselves to let go anyway we can.
