It's Okay to Fail

Failure is an inevitable part of life. Sometimes we learn from our mistakes, and sometimes we just don't know what went wrong. By embracing failure, you are accepting yourself and your situation as a part of life. It is an opportunity for growth, but it is not a measure of your future or self-worth. Embracing failure can lead to success down the road.

1, Stop seeing failure as a measure of your self-worth.

Failing can lead to sadness and frustration. Believe that you can bounce back from failure. Often your harshest critic is yourself.

• See your self-worth through your ability to keep trying rather than giving up.

• While you may not be good at one thing, that doesn't mean that you're bad at everything.

2, Focus on what you do well.

After failure, you may feel like there's nothing good about you. But in truth, everyone has something unique to them that they do well. Some people are good listeners. Some are handy with fixing things. Some are dependable. Some are artistic.

• Use what you do well to your advantage in the future. While it is important to improve things about yourself, it is also important to keep your good points strong.

• Avoid overly negative thinking by focusing on the positive aspects of yourself and your life. Think of three things that are going well in this current moment

3, Seek guidance from those you trust.

Don't let others determine your worth and value. Avoid listening to negative people or those who bully you to get what they want. When looking for guidance, trust those who care about you.

• Some friends or family may offer healthy criticism. Avoid dismissing it, but also ask them to focus equally on the positives as well as the negatives. Consider saying, "Thank you very much for the advice. I will take it to heart. I was also wondering, what are some things I do well?"

• Opening up about your failing to others. This will make you will feel less burdened or alone. This will also allow others to share their own failures too.

4, Accept your limitations.

The only person that you can control is yourself. By learning to distinguish what you can change, and what you can't, you can better understand how external things impact your life

• Take this as an opportunity to focus on what you can do.

• For example, failing to get to work on time due to extreme weather circumstances may have been out of your control. Yet, failing to get to work on time routinely due to time mismanagement may have been within your control.

5, Define failure as only temporary.

Failure is a loss, but avoid looking at this loss as permanent. Failure happens at various points in our lives. These points are temporary moments in the larger scope of your month, year, or lifetime.

• By seeing failure as temporary, it will seem less overwhelming.

• When something is temporary, failure can become a positive thing as times change. Sometimes what want isn’t what we needed at the time.

6, Accept that failure helps you grow.

• Be flexible about what happens — whether you succeed or fail and look at ways to improve next time.

• As a baby we fell a lot while learning to walk (many times) but we slowly and surely mastered it with repetitive action.

• See it as a way to be motivated, to be more organized, more thorough, and more engaged.

• Focus your energy on how to be positive and stay motivated no matter the outcome.

  Try Anticipating failure and have a plan B, then you can more successfully face the prospect of failure with less fear.Fear of failing can arise from many causes – ranging from childhood events to mistakes we make in our adult lives. Modern psychology teaches us to realize that fear of failure is a choice. We can choose to be afraid, or we can choose not to be.

Fear of failing can arise from many causes – ranging from childhood events to mistakes we make in our adult lives. Modern psychology teaches us to realize that fear of failure is a choice. We can choose to be afraid, or we can choose not to be.

Remember, when you are looking at your failures in life, you are the only person who can say whether an experience is a success or a failure. In reality, most events can be both; it just depends on how you see them.